What is Emotional Abuse

• Humiliating and degradation
• Discounting and negating
• Domination and control
• Judging and criticizing
• Accusing and blaming
• Trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations
• Emotional distancing and "silent treatmetn"
• Isolation

Emotional abuse can also include more subtle forms of behavior such as;

• Withholdin of attention or affection
• Disapporving, dismissive, contemptuous, or condescending looks, comments, and behavior.
• Sulking, and pouting
• Projection and or accusations
• Subtle threats of abandonment (either physical or emotional)
• Believing that others should do as you say
• not noticing how others feel
• not caring how others feel
• believing that everyone else is inferior to you
• believing that you are always right (it's their attitude)

Emotional Abuse Does Damage

Victims are depressed, lack of motivation, confusion, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, low self-esteem, feelings of failure, or worthlessness, feelings of hopelessness, self-blame, self-destructiveness. Emotional abuse is like brainwashing, as it wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their perceptions, and self-concept. Such as being berrated, and belitted, by intimidation, under the guise of "guidance" is seen here.

The victim eventually loses all sense of self and personal value.

Emotional abuse cuts to the very core of a person, creating scars that may longer last than the physical ones.

Emotional abuse has the insults, insinuations, criticism, accusations slowly eat away at the victim's self-esteem until they feel they are incapable of judging a situation realistically. They may believe there is something wrong with them, or fear that they are losing themselves. They've become so beaten down emotionally, verbally, that they blame themselves for it.

It poisons the relationship, and infuses it with hostility, contempt, and hatred.

The more the partner is allowed to degrade the victim, the longer it will continue, and the victim will lose respect for the abuser (her partner).

The more abuse that the victim is enduring the more she will build up an intense hatred towards her partner the abuser. The disrespect and hatred that they feel leads to more emotional abuse and inappropriate, and destructive behavior.

The anger will build up overtime and the emotional can turn to physical or even worse.

This is a sample of the book entitled: "How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing" the "Emotionally Abusive Relationship" by Beverly Engel

author of the "Emotionally Abused Woman"

Another book I recommend is "Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out" by Patricia Evans.